They happen every day those frustrating, circular I m right, you re wrong arguments What s at risk may be as life changing as whether or not your kid drops out of college, your aging parent goes into a nursing home, or your boss gives you the promotion you want Or it may be as commonplace as getting the insurance company to approve your claim These situations oftenThey happen every day those frustrating, circular I m right, you re wrong arguments What s at risk may be as life changing as whether or not your kid drops out of college, your aging parent goes into a nursing home, or your boss gives you the promotion you want Or it may be as commonplace as getting the insurance company to approve your claim These situations often frustrate both parties, stall progress, and hurt relationships But they don t have to In I m Right, You re Wrong, Now What Dr Xavier Amador, a Columbia University professor and clinical psychologist shows you how to break nearly any impasse and persuade your opponent for that s what people become when you ve reached an impasse to give you what you need I m Right, You re Wrong, Now What is based on Dr Amador s LISTEN EMPATHIZE AGREE PARTNER LEAP method A highly successful program that has been taught to tens of thousands of people in seminars around the U.S and overseas, LEAP teaches you how to turn even toxic arguments into healthy disagreements that end with you getting what you need Built on timeless psychological truths and new research, LEAP is a roadmap for improving the quality and health of any relationship LEAP will actually show you how to convince the other person to help you, while increasing mutual respect and trust Perhaps most importantly, it will help you make that all important distinction between what you want and what you need Dr Amador s LEAP program includes techniques on how to diffuse anger and lower defenses get past stubbornness and even denial make your opponent ask for your opinion instead of railing against it turn adversaries into allies create positive and productive relationshipsAt home, at work and in life, LEAP demonstrates how winning is not about hearing the other person say You re right, it s about getting him to give you what you need even when he doesn t agree with you.
I m Right You re Wrong Now What Break the Impasse and Get What You Need They happen every day those frustrating circular I m right you re wrong arguments What s at risk may be as life changing as whether or not your kid drops out of college your aging parent goes into
The tactic of LEAP (Listen-Empathy-Agree-Partner) is well explained in illustration of various cases studies that can help to heal relationship breakdown. It's somehow similar to "How to win friends & influence people" of Dale Carnegie but digs deeper into what psychologies & emotions driving human behavior, esp during conflicts where people become unbreakable walls of strong defense. Very nice to read & highly recommend!
Some useful specific strategies for both maintaining your focus on getting what you actually want and keeping relationships positive with people who are disagreeing with or obstructing you.
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I will freely admit to an addiction to psychobabble books. It must come from all those college psych courses and the need to understand human nature in the classroom. This was actually not a bad book and it was short. As with a lot of this genre, you might be able to figure it out on your own but, as the book explains, when you are freaking out the blood is rushing to your extremities so you can run away or kill the saber-toothed tiger and not to your brain where you can analyze the situation ca [...]
I haven't actually finished this yet, but it's due back to the library and I'm pretty sure I need to own a copy. I've often wished I could be more manipulative, or, you know, just persuasive. I think this book is the closest thing to a training course in that. It doesn't even seem to matter if the other person is reasonable, logical, selfish, quick to anger If the author is right, it's more about technique, which I'm seeing echoed other places. And even practicing a little seems to be helping me [...]
Một trong những quyển sách yêu thích nhấtCó thể vì đây là quyển sách về kỹ năng giao tiếp đầu tiên mình đọcVà chiến thuật trong sách tuy được miêu tả có hơi quá dài thì vẫn là một chiến thuật hiệu quảKỹ năng đàm phán là một thứ tưởng xa vời nhưng lại rất hàng ngày. Đi chợ, đi làm, cuộc sống hàng ngày. Đâu đâu cũng có thể áp dụngKiểu mọi người sẽ bị thuyết phục dù vài t [...]
Written in an attractive and persuasive way, the book is quite easy to follow. I like the variety of situations where the techniques are actually used. It shows a way to realize the very common mistakes of people and how to overcome for better communication.
Great book for an effective negotiation :)
This is an excellent book about communicating effectively and dodging toxic argument bullets.Become Neo from the Matrix and read this book.
Mình nghĩ 1 quyển self-help 972 trang là khá dài T.T vì thế mình ko thể đọc hết và cảm thấy khá chán với quyển sách này.Cách đọc của mình là xem nội dung mục lục, đọc tiêu đề và nắm ý chính của từng phần. Các ví dụ của tác giả khá dài và nó liên quan nhiều đến các chủ đề thường ngày thay vì business nên mình bỏ qua các ví dụ.Nguyên tắc LEAP được tác giả giới thiệu và phân tích xu [...]